Sunday, September 20, 2015

Do you do anything?

If you watch "The Real Housewives of the O.C.", this will be familiar to you. And after reading this, you may likely think poorly of me, or in some cases, poorlier.

BUT ...

Here's the situation: You know someone who isn't exactly a person who you'd consider a friend. You have friends in common, are cordial to each other when necessary, but friends you are not. So not friends that you prefer when she is not around. You just don't click. There's tension there.

This non-friend's significant other is rumored to have cancer. There are also rumors circulating that that person is making up having cancer.

You know the name of the person's cancer doctor.

Do you do anything?

Backing up - Vicki is the non-friend and her boyfriend (who may or may not have cancer) is Brooks. You are Meghan.

A good friend of mine texted me after watching last week's RHoOC. Told me how she was disgusted with Meghan's behavior, what an a-hole, who does that, etc.? I watched it the next moring while on the treadmill and saw that Meghan actually called the cancer doctor's office to see if they treat cancer patients. As I watched, I didn't think what she did was awful. The more I watched, the more I realized that I would have done the exact same thing! Who wouldn't? Was I missing something?

Later that day I asked Robin, who had also seen it, "I don't get it. What did Meghan do that was so wrong?"

"You're kidding me, right?"

"No - what's the big deal? She made a phone call to a doctor's office."

"It's none of her business!"

I won't further bore you with the details of our elevated voices and colorful names thrown back and forth, but we disagreed.

The next day I asked a friend at work who is like minded to me. "No. That's crossing the line." (What do you know?)

Asked two more friends at work - who basically told me to get a life - who cares - and mind your own business. (Well you two suck.)

Texted Ingrid. Asked her if she'd call the doctor - "No, but I wouldn't throw a fund raiser for that guy either." (Gee, thanks for tossing me a bone.)

Called my mother, "No, I don't think so. Not really any of your business, is it?" (Well, no, but that's not the point, MOM.)

I thought about putting it on Facebook, but Robin told me that with my present poll score being 7-0, I would look like a psycho. "People don't need to know how you really are. Just leave it alone." Riiiight.

I finally texted a friend in Miami with whom I hadn't spoken in a year, other than to send her a wedding picture, and let's face it, that was purely fishing for a compliment. She did agree with me.

But it took asking eight people to find one person to agree with me.

On the show, Meghan dug a lot further. She called an ex girlfriend and really did go out of her way to get to the bottom of it and she did look like an ass. I wouldn't have gone to those depths, but a little tiny phonecall? I do NOT see a big deal.

Does anyone else agree with me? Somebody? Hello?

((( I asked Robin to proof read this for me. She said, "It's fine. You're gonna lose every friend you ever had, but post it. )))






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